Editor’s Note: This post is by Simple Marriage contributor Mary Ann Crossno.
“You make me feel . . .” – we say that because we just KNOW that how well we do in life is somehow linked to the impact others have on us. That’s why it often seems as though we are on a roller coaster and someone – ANYONE – other than us – is in control of the ride.
V. Higgins – “Emotions . . . come up unexpectedly and seem overwhelming”
One of Simple Marriage’s basic premises is that
- Human potential is shaped by human interaction.
We humans are a part of nature and we are ruled by the same forces that drive nature.
- In nature, emotions and the emotional systems are automatic, instinctual reactions to real, patterned, or imagined threats.
- Emotions are designed to preserve the species, protect the social unit, and promote procreation.
- They are the driving biological force that shapes relationship patterns.
Our need for relationships creates the human paradox – we need enough togetherness to survive and enough separateness to thrive. Every baby’s life was conceived in togetherness and born into separateness – the first and most powerful example of our lifelong struggle to be connected to the most important people in our life while becoming a self-determined, goal-directed individual. [Read more…] about How To Have Your Feelings