My Reads In 2022

My Reads In 2022

It was in grad school that I developed the need, then the love for reading (although now thanks to Audible, listening to books as well). Most all of them were good to great reads. A couple I didn't complete because I've finally gotten to the point where when I get to...

Welcome to Passionately Married

Welcome to Passionately Married

“Doing is never enough if you neglect Being. The ego knows nothing of Being but believes you will eventually be saved by doing. If you are in the grip of the ego, you believe that by doing more and more you will eventually accumulate enough 'doings' to make yourself...

Connection . . . or Idealized Togetherness?

Connection . . . or Idealized Togetherness?

What's one of the biggest obstacles to experiencing intimacy in your marriage? More often than not, the answer is unrealistic togetherness expectations, i.e., idealized or fantasy togetherness. I can hear the objections coming on loud and clear! Think through this...

Focus On The How

Focus On The How

What is it that creates the intensity in certain conversations with your spouse? What moves a conversation between two people from the issue at hand into personal meltdown - emotional reactivity? Emotional reactivity turns out to be nature's way of informing us of...

Keeping Your Cool

Keeping Your Cool

I know you've been there before, you're in the midst of an intense discussion with your spouse and it moves beyond a conversation about the issue at hand and gets personal. A button has been pushed, or you pushed their button and now it heats up even more. The...

Sexy Marriage Radio Turns 11!!!!

Sexy Marriage Radio Turns 11!!!!

Today is a big day. Sexy Marriage Radio is celebrating our 11th birthday today!!!! Celebrate with us because you are part of this with us. The SMR Nation is such a vital aspect of our journey thus far. Thank you for the 11 years of listening and supporting us. Here's...

Me vs We

Me vs We

You walk in the door and are greeted with… “Honey, we need to talk about a few things.” If you’re human, your insides immediately tighten and your defenses prepare for battle. It’s a common occurrence. Your spouse tells you what’s going on with them and you react. The...

Relationships Are Easy

Relationships Are Easy

Relationships are actually pretty easy. I didn't always believe this. In fact, I used to believe relationships are hard work. I've written these very words many times. You've probably even heard this phrase before. It is often stated as a Truism in our society, and...

Natural dynamics in every relationship

Natural dynamics in every relationship

There are natural dynamics at work in every marriage and relationship. How do these impact you? Here's a quick preview of one of our upcoming video courses, Desire Matters Course. https://youtu.be/jniPyF1sM-w Our Marriage Matters Courses launch in September of 2022!...

Natural dynamics in every relationship

A Better Framework

This is a common email I receive. A wife asked for help. She felt stuck in her marriage and wanted me to give her advice. While I do work with individuals in a counseling and coaching relationship, I was curious in the way she was wording her email so I asked her to...

Doctor people and coach people

Doctor people and coach people

*The following is taken and adapted from Mark Manson. For years I have been producing content on Sexy Marriage Radio and the blog aimed at helping people take the next steps in their relationships and life. Over the years, it seems that people who seek out marriage...

How to tell if a man has lost his courage

How to tell if a man has lost his courage

This is the second message in a short series aimed at husbands who stay stuck on some plateau in life and why a rare few are able to level up. This is all included in the Man Of His Word Mastermind Groups that start in August. You can learn more by clicking here. If...