Communication and Blame, Part 2

Part two of my conversation with Denis Merkas of MELT, Couples Massage Courses. “We don’t fight about things… we fight about meanings of things” We’re talking about arguments and all things communication. This is an interesting topic – every couple fights. How do you...

Let Your No Be No

For many years I had trouble saying no. I would get approached by someone selling something (or answer a sales call at home), listen respectfully to their spiel, then go into a long, drawn out explanation about why I couldn’t take part in what they’re...

Hangry Spouses Lash Out More

It’s a known fact that conflict will happen in marriage. You and your spouse are going to disagree, argue, and perhaps even fight. But did you know there’s a way to possibly curb the severity of these disagreements? You’ve heard the old adage...

The Art of Listening

It’s safe to say that most of us are interested in the quality of our lives. But what we may not remember are the following two ideas: The quality of our lives depends largely on the quality of our relationships. To a large extent, the quality of our relationships...

Common Marriage Mistakes

I have been married over half my life now. Overall, these years have been good, if not great at times. There are other times however, when marriage has been anything but good. Sadly, many of these times where brought on by my own stupidity. I’ve made many of the...

Agreeing to Disagree Isn’t Always a Good Enough Compromise

This is a guest post from Malini Bhatia of Marriage.com. When in times of conflict, be it when discussing politics, religion, or other opposing views, sometimes we just throw up our hands and say, “Let’s just agree to disagree.” The phrase helps us to stop arguing and...