If Your Marriage Were A Movie, Would You Want To Go See It?

Relationship Design

Are you ready???

Morning after morning, we get up to the same routine, the same job, the same chores, only to go to bed and repeat it all the next day – the next week – the next month. What would it be like to live in the epic relationships we see in movies?
I used to think there were times that my life was playing out on the big screen. My life was a movie and there were people on the other side of the screen watching it unfold.
At times, I didn’t want them watching.
Many times however, if people really were watching, they’d ask for their money back.
What if this was true for your marriage?
The idea of life as a story fascinates me. There are other things going on around us. We are not the center of the universe. We are interconnected with everything.
If life, or marriage, are a story – what kind of story are you living?
It turns out there are certain rules or principles that must be present in order for a story to be good.

  1. There has to be a protagonist that you care about. That’s you. How well are you caring for yourself in your story?
  2. There has to be some sort of conflict. If you’re married, this one is probably already present. Even if you’re not, life is still full of conflict. It’s unavoidable.
  3. The story must have a climactic ending. This is not your death, it’s the milestones you achieve in life. The realization of dreams. The conquering of fears. There are many climactic endings throughout life and marriage.

Think about the story most of us live – pretty boring. It’s no wonder that we wake up several years into our marriage and feel lost. Perhaps marriage and life grow routine and boring at times because we are living in a boring story.
You know what – you can write a new story.
Start today.
Write the story you desire. The epic marriage story you long for. If you’d like some assistance, pick up a copy of A Simple Marriage.
Have a discussion with your spouse about your story.
Talk about who you’ve been, where you’ve come from, and who you can become.
The point is… begin writing your story. Together or separately it doesn’t much matter at this point. Just start writing. The pen is yours…
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