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Obligation Sex #583
Everyone gets the full show today …
A conversation with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topic of obligation sex.
Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses?
To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/
Also listen to her other episodes on SMR:
#437 The Lower Desire Wife
#463 Sex For Emotional Attachment
#544 Resentment
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Trustworthiness #582
What does trust mean?
Is it a simple concept or a complicated one?
What if we frame this topic under the lens of trustworthiness?
That’s our conversation today, and how this plays out in life and marriage.
On the Xtended version …
An email from a member who is wondering if there can be a role reversal within the difference aspects of the Higher Desire and Lower Desire framework. Specifically when it comes to confidence and the preconceived roles each gender plays in marriage.
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Role Playing #581
I’m joined today Jon and Katie Runyan, of Faithful Fling, and we dive into the world of role playing.
How can it spice things up? How can a couple explore this aspect of fantasy and sex while still keeping it within the couple?
Learn more about Faithful Fling here –
https://www.faithfulfling.com/
On the Xtended version …
Jon and Katie and I continue the conversation by turning it a bit more personal – as well as exploring some of the pitfalls that may be associated with fantasy and role playing.
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Testicular Cancer #580
Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway.
A husband had a testicle removed due to cancer (which was caught early). He was told by his doctor that his libido may increase and the remedy to any discomfort is ejaculation. This puts his wife is a tough spot.
A husband wants his wife to wear lingerie and wants to go down on her after sexual intercourse. His side – he loves it. Her side – not so much.
On the Xtended version …
An encore conversation how to bring up your desires when you may disrupt the status quo.
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Retroactive Jealousy #579
Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway.
A caller has an issue with a statement made from a past show and left us a message asking if we would tell our daughter the same thing I said on the air.
A husband is suffering from retroactive jealousy over things his wife did before they were married and even before they had met.
On the Xtended version …
An encore conversation about our fear of being alone.
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Encore of The Female Orgasm #578
An encore episode of a conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the most common issues couples face in their sex lives today. You can find more about Vanessa on her site https://vmtherapy.com/
On the Xtended version …
Vanessa and I continue the conversation about sex, only this time we’re focusing solely on the female orgasm.
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Lets Talk About Testosterone #577
I’m joined by Dr Carole Hooven, a Harvard Lecturer, as we discuss her study and work on the science of testosterone.
Why is it that this hormone is so important and so divisive?
Learn more about Dr Carole here – http://www.carolehooven.com/
On the Xtended version …
Dr Carole and I continue the conversation only get more personal. She even turns the tables on the interview!
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Cliteracy #576
An encore presentation of the conversation with Dr Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate. We talk about the orgasm gap, why it exists and what couples can do about it.
On the Xtended version …
Dr Laurie continues with me again to discuss the route to female orgasms as well as their importance.
Learn more about Laurie here https://www.drlauriemintz.com/
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Abstinence In Marriage #575
A husband who has had a past struggle with porn and sex addiction is in the midst of an agreed upon abstinence period with his wife. She says it will take a long time before sex is introduced again in the marriage. What can he do?
A wife went through old voicemails left for her from her husband while they were dating and he sounds like a completely different man compared to now. How should she react to the heartbreak she feels now?
On the Xtended version …
A more dominant personality wife gets blamed for her husbands decisions and results when he followed her thoughts. He claims “when mama ain’t happy, no one is” How can she address this dynamic?
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Q&A Potpourri: Consent, Oral Sex, Waiting #574
Pam and I work through a potpourri of questions today ….
A husband is struggling with the idea of consent in marriage, even when his wife has given it in some areas.
Wife regularly gives her husband a “hand” yet it’s feeling too transactional now.
A husband told his wife she was great at blow jobs early on in their marriage, yet she’s not. Now what should he do?
A wife has a husband who has lost lots of weight yet still has more to go and lots of loose skin now.
A wife who has never orgasmed and a husband who really wants her too.
A woman is saving herself for marriage, but what if she winds up stuck with a micro-penis?
Been married for 7 months, and sex sucks.
A wife found out her husband struggled with porn and now she is struggling to not worry about what he’s thinking about or wanting to do during sex with her.
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Best Of SMR: Awaken Female Desire #573
A best of SMR episode with an email from a higher desire wife that’s in a catch 22.
An interview with Pam Costa about her journey and research into female desire. How her experience of talking about the topic, taboos, and hesitancies with other women dramatically improved her desire levels.
On the Xtended version …
I continue the conversation with Pam Costa about the research project she created to study female desire levels and the practical steps everyone can talk to help themselves in this area of life.
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Not Enough #572
An email from a husband wanting to explore some new things during sex with his wife, yet she takes this as she’s not enough for him.
A husband emails us about his never being attracted to his wife, even while they were dating. What are his options now?
On the Xtended version …
How do our family of origin patterns play out in our lives and marriages today?
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