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It’s My Body #555

It’s My Body #555

A voicemail from a couple looking for more resources to help them explore the spiritual and tantric side of sex.

A wife calls in wanting to know how to address the desire differences between her and her husband. She wants to keep sex special and not so often, after all, it’s her body so she should be able to determine when and how often.

On the Xtended version …

Trauma impacts lots of people and creates lasting impacts for some. But has the word trauma changed in meaning and usage?

That’s what we discuss this week in the Xtended content.

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The Worst Advice About Porn Ever Given #554

The Worst Advice About Porn Ever Given #554

Today we hear the story of Clinton and Charity Munoz (of Restored 2 More) and how pornography almost destoryed their marriage, and Clinton’s life.

Along the way, they also were given the most destructive advice about how to address this issue as a couple. Luckily, they overcame that advice and have gone on to create a ministry that helps other couples dealing with struggle and crisis from pornography or other issues in marriage.

Check them out here – https://restored2more.com/

On the Xtended version …

We go deeper into their story, but this time we explore how their journey impacted Charity and what they’ve learned along the way together.

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Birthday Favors #553

Birthday Favors #553

On the Regular version of today’s show …

A voicemail from a listener pushing back on how we answered a wife in a prior episode. He believes she should have been told to put on her “big girl panties” – and he’s right. 

A husband has asked for some specific sexual favors for his birthday. His wife isn’t usually on board with what he’s asked for, yet she’s done most of them. Should he speak up about the remaining one yet to be done? 

On the Xtended version …

We believe in setting a course for the new year, but not with new year’s resolutions. We love the idea of using Three Words to act as a compass for your life and relationships. 

We unpack the idea behind the three words, share our words, and ask you to join us with your words. 

Enjoy the show!

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Best Of SMR: Masturbation and Expectations #552

Best Of SMR: Masturbation and Expectations #552

An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife.

A caller wondering about more information about masturbation and is it a sin.

On the Xtended version …

Expectations. We all have them. Where do they come from and what do we do with them?

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Break Out Of A Sexual Rut #551

Break Out Of A Sexual Rut #551

Pam goes through a Sex Ed Quiz again. Follow along to see how you do.

A wife wants to know how to best co-parent with her step-kids mom, who is now in a same-sex relationship.

A husband wants to know how to break out of the sexual rut he and his wife are in currently.

How do you address times when there’s an agreement for a sexual encounter yet it doesn’t happen?

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Married Sex #550

Married Sex #550

A conversation with Gary Thomas about his newest book, Married Sex.

You can learn about Gary and his work here – https://garythomas.com

On the Xtended version …

Gary and I have a conversation about the pushback and reaction to his book thus far.

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Great Sex Rescue #549

Great Sex Rescue #549

Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me as we talk about her newest book, The Great Sex Rescue.

Learn more about Sheila on her site https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/

On the Xtended version …

A conversation I had with Sheila about the concerns I had regarding her book and the tone of her writing and responses since publication.

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Arousal vs Attraction #548

Arousal vs Attraction #548

An email from a wife who wants to know if asking questions to her husband about his past struggle with porn will increase the temptation.

A voicemail from a wife wanting help understanding arousal and attraction.

On the Xtended version …

Pam and I work through a gridlock script from a member of the SMR Nation.

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Best Of SMR: Too Tired For Sex #547

Best Of SMR: Too Tired For Sex #547

A voicemail from a Rape Crisis Counselor concerned about one of our past messages of leading towards what you want in sex.

How do you spice up sex when trying to conceive? Dr. Laurie Mintz joins me to cover this email.

On the Xtended version …

A deeper conversation with Dr Mintz about her work helping women who are too tired for sex.

Find more of her work here – http://drlauriemintz.com/

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If I Do This Will You Do That #546

If I Do This Will You Do That #546

After our segment on BDSM in Episode #541 we received a couple of emails about how we totally missed the mark are came across as judgmental. Today we address this more.

A husband wants to rim his wife yet she’s not comfortable with the act. She wants to go skydiving which he’s not comfortable with. What about an exchange?

On the Xtended version …

A role play of how to address gridlock issues, based from a segment in last week’s Xtended content.

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Dealing With Breast Cancer #545

Dealing With Breast Cancer #545

I’m joined by Dr Laurie Watson and we talk about how breast cancer impacts a couple’s  married life, sex life and desire – plus the journey for both spouses facing this battle.

Learn more about Dr Laurie here – https://www.foreplayrst.com/

On the Xtended version of today’s show …

Laurie and I talk about the yin and the yang of the energy in a couples sex life.

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Resentment #544

Resentment #544

Today I’m joined by a colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great – except in one area. What’s happening here?

Plus, how do you address resentment in marriage and life?

Learn more about Dr Jennifer here – https://www.finlayson-fife.com/

Enjoy the show!

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