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Secrets Of Great Sex #541

Secrets Of Great Sex #541

This week we are celebrating SMR’s 10 year anniversary!!!
On the Regular version of today’s show …

Some thank you’s are in order as we have been on the air for 10 years now. Thank you to the SMRNation for showing up each week and speaking up about the topics and issues you want to learn more about.

An email from a listener curious about BDSM as a Christian couple.

On the Xtended version …

What are the secrets of couples that have great sex? We will share 8.

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Sex As An Idol #540

Sex As An Idol #540

Can sex be an idol. How would you know?

A dating couple want to know more about what options are there for birth control as they prepare for the marriage. The pill had too many side effects for the wife and she’s concerned about condoms, even though her soon to be husband says he’s fine with them.

A newlywed couple is averaging sex 2 times a month, not at all what she thought would be the case. Is there something wrong?

On the Xtended version …

Could the higher desire/lower desire labels also be limiting to the people who find comfort in knowing they are one or the other in their marriage?

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Can’t Turn My Mind Off #539

Can’t Turn My Mind Off #539

I’m joined by Dr Emily Jamea as we discuss the distracted mind, or put another way – how to address the times when you can’t turn off you mind.

Learn more about Dr Jamea on her site – https://emilyjamea.com/

On the Xtended version …

Dr Emily and I discuss the dynamic in marriage where the wife is the higher desire spouse.

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All Things Are Permissible #538

All Things Are Permissible #538

A wife gets turned off when her husband wants to do some novel things in their sex life. How can she address him and the situations better?

A husband emails about a wife who has lost all desire and libido due to a medication she is on. How can her get her more engaged in their sex life so it doesn’t feel one-sided?

On the Xtended version …

There is a Scripture that says, All things are permissible, but not all things are beneficial. How does this apply to our marriage and sex life?

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When The Low Desire Initiates #537

When The Low Desire Initiates #537

Adding music to your sex life in marriage. Join the conversation at my.smrnation.com.

A husband is in a 2 year stretch of sexlessness. How can he get his wife, who is also miserable, on board with wanting to improve things?

On the Xtended version …

What happens when the low desire spouse initiates sex, yet is shut down by their high desire spouse?

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Not Attracted To My Spouse #536

Not Attracted To My Spouse #536

There is a cure for ticklishness. Plus this same cure works to create deeper erotic connections!

Two newlywed couples email us about issues they are having with sex – within the first year of their marriages.

On the Xtended version …

A husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it. What should he do now?

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Fantasies of a Third #535

Fantasies of a Third #535

A military wife wants to know how to encourage her husband to be interested in more romantic sex, oh, and she’s the higher desire for all the other kinds of sex as well.

A wife parents different than her husband, and his manner of parenting is a real turn off sexually.

On the Xtended version …

Our Instagram account got quite a bit of pushback over a post we ran about adding a third person to the bedroom. This is my response to the reactions.

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Are Women More Sexual Than Men? #534

Are Women More Sexual Than Men? #534

A follow up from an email on last week’s show.

A newlywed asks for tips to help prepare or avoid the issues that he hears other couples inevitably face in marriage.

A woman is experiencing some self-image issues and marital strife resulting from a botched breast reduction procedure.

Could it be that women are more sexual than men?

A couple both experience orgasms during sex regularly, yet the issue for the husband is how his wife achieves them.

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Too Quick Too Slow #533

Too Quick Too Slow #533

A husband takes too long to orgasm during oral sex, and too quick during PV sex. 

A wife wants help understanding how to help her husband address the length of time it takes him to climax.

A woman has been dating a Christian man for 9 years, who simply won’t commit to marriage. 

On the Xtended version …

What do you do when one spouse wants to avail themselves to medical resources and vaccines and the other spouse is completely opposed?

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Consent #532

Consent #532

Announcing that registration for the 2022 SMR Getaway is open now … come join us in downtown Indianapolis! Learn more and register here. 

A follow up email from a listener about dealing with guilt and resentment.

A question asking if a spouse who refuses to address their role in a sexless marriage is actually better termed as infidelity.

On the Xtended version …

We’ve received several emails and messages about how the aspect of consent plays out in marriage. Today we begin the conversation on this tricky subject.

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Best Of SMR: Missionary Position and Love Languages #531

Best Of SMR: Missionary Position and Love Languages #531

A look back at one of our favorite episodes according to the Nation.

Two voicemails with some additional ideas to explore from a prior email from a husband who’s wife only likes missionary position sex.

On the Xtended version …

A discussion about how I believe the messages found in three popular marriage books, The 5 Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs, and Love And Respect, are used in the wrong ways.

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Delay Tactics #530

Delay Tactics #530

An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it’s the husbands fault.

A husband emails wanting to know if taking a break from pursuing sex with his lower desire wife would help reset things for them both.

On the Xtended version …

Are there delay tactics used in marriage and sex to avoid things we don’t want to participate in or follow through with?

Enjoy the show!

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