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Principles of Passion and Desire #591
Think of today’s episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR.
What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?
How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?
In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance.
On the Xtended version …
We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.
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Perimenopause | Dr Kelly Casperson #590
Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women’s sexual health – specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause.
Let’s face it, every woman will face these stages in life – what are the things you need to ask, know and do to help you through this life stage?
Learn more about Dr Kelly here – https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/
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Fantasies | Dr Justin Lehmiller #589
Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex.
On the Xtended version …
Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them.
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Sexual Shame and Brokenness | Jay Stringer #588
Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area.
Learn more about Jay and his work here – https://jay-stringer.com/
On the Xtended version …
Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors in your life when they may be coming from things in your past?
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The Men We Need | Brant Hansen #587
A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen.
How can a guy who plays the flute and accordion and with puppets write a book about manliness?
What is so terrible about men who are passive?
What should we as men really be doing in our lives and relationships?
Learn more about Brant here https://branthansen.com
On the Xtended version …
We talk about how our society has become the world of the perpetually offended, and what can we do about it.
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Came Home After Baby With A Different Body | Feedback Wednesday #586
It’s Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener’s emails and voicemails.
A husband is more well-endowed than his petite wife is able to receive without anxiety and even pain. How can they navigate this kind of size difference?
A voicemail with a thought we missed on Episode #580, where a husband wanted to go down on his wife after climaxing inside her.
A wife went to the hospital to deliver a baby and came home with a different body. At least that’s what her husband says.
On the Xtended version …
We’ve talked a lot about how we get in our own way when you’re the higher desire spouse for sex. Could this also be true when you’re the higher desire spouse for emotional intimacy?
A husband has lost his erection several times and now is struggling while his wife is pregnant. She takes it personally – and so does he. What can they do?
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Sex Every Day #585
What are the benefits of having sex every day? Are there negatives to this as well?
What if it wasn’t sexual intercourse every day … but was simply being sexual every day? Does that change anything in your mind?
On the Xtended version …
A message from a member who is wanting to get the passion back in his marriage after 20 years.
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Nice Guys Revisited | Dr Robert Glover #584
An encore conversation with Dr Robert Glover on the topic of Nice Guys. And no, we’re not meaning kind in this episode.
What is the Nice Guy?
How do you recognize and confront covert contracts?
To learn more from Robert -check out his site https://www.drglover.com/
On the Xtended version …
An extended conversation with Dr Glover about the importance of showing up in your relationships, and setting a good tone.
Enjoy the show!
Also listen to his other episodes on SMR:
#326 Positive Emotional Tension
#425 Testing Solidness
#558 Roommates Not Lovers
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Obligation Sex | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #583
Everyone gets the full show today …
A conversation with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topic of obligation sex.
Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses?
To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/
Also listen to her other episodes on SMR:
#437 The Lower Desire Wife
#463 Sex For Emotional Attachment
#544 Resentment
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Trustworthiness #582
What does trust mean?
Is it a simple concept or a complicated one?
What if we frame this topic under the lens of trustworthiness?
That’s our conversation today, and how this plays out in life and marriage.
On the Xtended version …
An email from a member who is wondering if there can be a role reversal within the difference aspects of the Higher Desire and Lower Desire framework. Specifically when it comes to confidence and the preconceived roles each gender plays in marriage.
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Role Playing #581
I’m joined today Jon and Katie Runyan, of Faithful Fling, and we dive into the world of role playing.
How can it spice things up? How can a couple explore this aspect of fantasy and sex while still keeping it within the couple?
Learn more about Faithful Fling here –
https://www.faithfulfling.com/
On the Xtended version …
Jon and Katie and I continue the conversation by turning it a bit more personal – as well as exploring some of the pitfalls that may be associated with fantasy and role playing.
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Testicular Cancer #580
Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway.
A husband had a testicle removed due to cancer (which was caught early). He was told by his doctor that his libido may increase and the remedy to any discomfort is ejaculation. This puts his wife is a tough spot.
A husband wants his wife to wear lingerie and wants to go down on her after sexual intercourse. His side – he loves it. Her side – not so much.
On the Xtended version …
An encore conversation how to bring up your desires when you may disrupt the status quo.
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