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Your Sex Scripts Revisited | Dr Ian Kerner #599

Your Sex Scripts Revisited | Dr Ian Kerner #599

An episode from the vault – and everyone gets the full show today.

I’m joined by Dr Ian Kerner as we discuss his new book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex.

Our conversations last week were all about the scripts we have in our sex lives. That’s what Dr Kerner’s book is all about.

To learn more about Ian visit his site – https://www.iankerner.com/

Enjoy the show!

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Sex Scripts In Marriage | Feedback Wednesday #598

Sex Scripts In Marriage | Feedback Wednesday #598

It’s Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener’s emails and voicemails.

A husband shares his thoughts to the guy who was thinking of giving up ex in the hopes of a relationship reboot.

A husband enjoyed prostate stimulation before becoming a Christian, now thinks it may be shameful. And after bringing it up to his wife, she wants nothing to do with it.

A wife can orgasm during foreplay but once intercourse begins, what can she do?

On the Xtended version …

A husband and wife had a therapist suggest they should schedule sex, which she immediately set up several appointments with her husband. He kept only one of the appointments.

To top it off, she largely has to do most of the work for her enjoyment during the times they have sex together. Is he abusive or neglectful?

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Love And The Purity Culture | Dr Sean McDowell #597

Love And The Purity Culture | Dr Sean McDowell #597

Dr Sean McDowell joins me to talk through the impacts and influence of the purity culture on marriages and young people today.

What messages about love and sex did you receive growing up? Or still hear today?

And how do these impact our lives and marriages now?

Learn more about Dr McDowell here – https://seanmcdowell.org/

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Normal Sex #596

Normal Sex #596

We receive emails and questions regularly from listeners wanting to know what is normal when it comes to sex. 

Everyone wants to feel like they’re normal, or at least not abnormal. 

So, what are some characteristics of normal when it comes to sex?

On the Xtended version …

Every person has some conditions that are necessary in order for them to enjoy sex. What are yours?

We go through some of the most common ones today.

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Make Marriage A Fortress | Gary Thomas #595

Make Marriage A Fortress | Gary Thomas #595

Gary Thomas joins me as we discuss his newest book, Making Marriage A Fortress.

We talk through the stories of couples who have faced or are facing different kinds of struggles in married life.

It’s not a question of if your marriage experiences struggles but when.

To learn more about Gary Thomas check out his site https://garythomas.com/

And read more from him here – https://garythomas.substack.com/

On the Xtended version …

Gary and I talk through the concept of the addiction model and how can we help God’s people be more real and honest with each other.

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Doing Sex Wrong | Dr Stephen Snyder #594

Doing Sex Wrong | Dr Stephen Snyder #594

Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR.

Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex.

Namely, what if we’re doing it all wrong?

Could it be that what we think makes sex good – isn’t actually a good qualifier to use?

To learn more about Dr Snyder check out his site https://www.sexualityresource.com/

On the Xtended version …

Stephen and I shift the conversation to the statement he’s made before about how better communication can ruin sex.

But I thought we were supposed to learn how to communicate better? Nope.

Enjoy the show!

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Delay Tactics Revisited #593

Delay Tactics Revisited #593

Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. 

An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it’s the husbands fault.

A husband emails wanting to know if taking a break from pursuing sex with his lower desire wife would help reset things for them both.

On the Xtended version …

Are there delay tactics used in marriage and sex to avoid things we don’t want to participate in or follow through with?

How do you do this in your life? Let us know. 

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The Importance of Touch | Dr Chelom Leavitt #592

The Importance of Touch | Dr Chelom Leavitt #592

Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me again on the show. Today we talk about the research she has found regarding the importance of touch in our lives, and relationships. 

Touch means lots of things – but both the non-sexual and the sexual touch are vitally important in our marriages. 

Learn more about Dr Leavitt here https://www.chelomleavitt.com/

On the Xtended version …

Chelom and I talk through the topic of how to talk about sex with your kids. 

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Principles of Passion and Desire #591

Principles of Passion and Desire #591

Think of today’s episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR.

What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?

How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?

In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance.

On the Xtended version …

We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.

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Perimenopause | Dr Kelly Casperson #590

Perimenopause | Dr Kelly Casperson #590

Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women’s sexual health – specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause.

Let’s face it, every woman will face these stages in life – what are the things you need to ask, know and do to help you through this life stage?

Learn more about Dr Kelly here – https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/

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Fantasies | Dr Justin Lehmiller #589

Fantasies | Dr Justin Lehmiller #589

Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex.

On the Xtended version …

Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them.

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Sexual Shame and Brokenness | Jay Stringer #588

Sexual Shame and Brokenness | Jay Stringer #588

Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area.

Learn more about Jay and his work here – https://jay-stringer.com/

On the Xtended version …

Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors in your life when they may be coming from things in your past?

Enjoy the show!

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