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Orgasm Denial #561

Orgasm Denial #561

A follow up to a couple of segments from Episode #559. Was I too harsh in my wording?

A couple is exploring the idea of orgasm denial – where there will be no orgasms for him unless he accomplishes certain tasks or fulfills something set for him by his wife.

On the Xtended version …

How exactly do you work to better yourself? It’s a phrase we often use – but what are some tangible ways this is accomplished?

Enjoy the show!

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Domestic and Spiritual Abuse #560

Domestic and Spiritual Abuse #560

Today we dive into a topic that is sadly far too reaching in our world –  domestic and spiritual abuse. Colleen Ramser joins me in our discussion about how these types of traumas impact both men and women.

We also get into how each of us who have been impacted by this type of trauma can heal going forward. 

Learn more about Colleen here – http://www.colleenramserlpc.com/

And check out her course here – https://www.colleenramser.com/

Enjoy the show! 9g29qpwv

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Tried It, Don’t Like It #559

Tried It, Don’t Like It #559

A follow to a message from an Instagram Q&A I was a part of over Valentine’s Weekend.

A wife tried out something new in sex, didn’t like it, yet her husband keeps pushing for it.

A husband wants to introduce a prostate massager during mutual masturbation, his wife isn’t ok with it.

On the Xtended version …

How do you frame healthy conversations around affection, passion and sexual release in marriage? Particularly as it pertains to masturbation?

PLUS – XTD feed members get to hear a new version and music in the intro and outro of the show. We’d love your feedback as we kick around ways to keep the show fresh and evolving.

Enjoy the show!

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Roommates Not Lovers #558

Roommates Not Lovers #558

Today, everyone gets the full show …

Dr Robert Glover joins me again as we dive into the roommate syndrome often found in marriage.

What are the factors at play that cause this to happen? But more importantly, what can we do about it?

Find more of Dr Glover here – https://www.drglover.com/

Enjoy the show!

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One Flesh #557

One Flesh #557

A followup to Episode #555 – what about the Scriptural concept of marriage is described as being one flesh?

A wife emails as lower desire, yet her husband has given up initiating and expects her to take it over. He’s even said to her “when you’re interested in it, you know where to find me.” 

On the Xtended version …

We switch gears and discuss the topic of trauma again, only through a slightly different framework.

We also give some ideas on what to do when triggers from the past occur in the present.

Enjoy the show!

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Finding Your Power #556

Finding Your Power #556

Dr Juli Slattery joins me as we talk through her decision to re-write her very first book, Finding the Hero In Your Husband. 

What’s new, and what has changed in society and the Christian culture since it was originally written?

Find more of Dr Juli here – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/

On the Xtended version …

We all face disappointment in life and marriage- but what if disappointment is actually a path to more intimacy? 

Enjoy the show!

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It’s My Body #555

It’s My Body #555

A voicemail from a couple looking for more resources to help them explore the spiritual and tantric side of sex.

A wife calls in wanting to know how to address the desire differences between her and her husband. She wants to keep sex special and not so often, after all, it’s her body so she should be able to determine when and how often.

On the Xtended version …

Trauma impacts lots of people and creates lasting impacts for some. But has the word trauma changed in meaning and usage?

That’s what we discuss this week in the Xtended content.

Enjoy the show!

Sponsors …

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The Worst Advice About Porn Ever Given #554

The Worst Advice About Porn Ever Given #554

Today we hear the story of Clinton and Charity Munoz of Restored 2 More, and how pornography almost destroyed their marriage, and Clinton’s life.

Along the way, they were given the most destructive advice about how to address this issue as a couple. Luckily, they overcame that advice and have gone on to create a ministry that helps other couples dealing with struggle and crisis from pornography or other issues in marriage.

Check them out here – https://restored2more.com/

On the Xtended version …

We go deeper into their story, but this time we explore how their journey impacted Charity and what they’ve learned along the way together.

Enjoy the show!

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Birthday Favors #553

Birthday Favors #553

On the Regular version of today’s show …

A voicemail from a listener pushing back on how we answered a wife in a prior episode. He believes she should have been told to put on her “big girl panties” – and he’s right. 

A husband has asked for some specific sexual favors for his birthday. His wife isn’t usually on board with what he’s asked for, yet she’s done most of them. Should he speak up about the remaining one yet to be done? 

On the Xtended version …

We believe in setting a course for the new year, but not with new year’s resolutions. We love the idea of using Three Words to act as a compass for your life and relationships. 

We unpack the idea behind the three words, share our words, and ask you to join us with your words. 

Enjoy the show!

Sponsors …

The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smrnation.com/union

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Best Of SMR: Masturbation and Expectations #552

Best Of SMR: Masturbation and Expectations #552

An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife.

A caller wondering about more information about masturbation and is it a sin.

On the Xtended version …

Expectations. We all have them. Where do they come from and what do we do with them?

Enjoy the show!

Sponsors …

The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smrnation.com/union

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Break Out Of A Sexual Rut #551

Break Out Of A Sexual Rut #551

Pam goes through a Sex Ed Quiz again. Follow along to see how you do.

A wife wants to know how to best co-parent with her step-kids mom, who is now in a same-sex relationship.

A husband wants to know how to break out of the sexual rut he and his wife are in currently.

How do you address times when there’s an agreement for a sexual encounter yet it doesn’t happen?

Enjoy the show!

Sponsors …

The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smrnation.com/union

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Married Sex #550

Married Sex #550

A conversation with Gary Thomas about his newest book, Married Sex.

You can learn about Gary and his work here – https://garythomas.com

On the Xtended version …

Gary and I have a conversation about the pushback and reaction to his book thus far.

Enjoy the show!

Sponsors …

The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smrnation.com/union

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