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Exploring Kink and BDSM #567

Exploring Kink and BDSM #567

I’m joined today by Tornus and Smartypants, of Full Circle Kink, as they take us on an exploration in the world of kink and BDSM.

Communication is king when venturing into today’s topic … and all sexual encounters for that matter.

Learn more on their site – https://www.fullcirclekink.com/ 

On the Xtended version …

We continue the conversation with Tornus and Smartypants and their personal journey into the world of kink. Plus, they give some great tips on equipment or first steps people often think they should take, but not according to them.

Enjoy the show!

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Respect #566

Respect #566

A wife suffered from insomnia for a while in her marriage, and it wrecked their sex life. How do they get it back now that the insomnia is no longer the issue? Plus, when she feels desire to initiate, she often doesn’t – because he would like that. What’s that about?

An email and voicemail adding more to last week’s conversation about the couple where vacation sex has decreased. A few additional points to consider.

On the Xtended version …

A wife repeatedly hears the message from her husband that she doesn’t show him any respect. What exactly does that mean?

And are we even owed something like that in our marriage?

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Even Vacation Sex Has Decreased #565

Even Vacation Sex Has Decreased #565

A husband is frustrated because while he usually could rely on vacation sex being adventurous and frequent with his wife, something’s changed with her and them lately.

A voicemail asking some questions about Erich Fromm’s book The Art Of Loving. Class is in session.

On the Xtended version …

A wife with the trauma of sexual assault in her past is now struggling with how her husband is sometimes trying to guilt her into more sex. What’s her best response?

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Sex Scripts and Stories #564

Sex Scripts and Stories #564

A husband wants to learn how to change up sexual encounters with his wife so the experience will last longer – but changing it up ruins it for his wife.

A follow up to the One Flesh episode from a husband who is the same situation with his wife – she too has not interest in sex or seeking help for their sex life.

On the Xtended version …

Some newlyweds reach out for help in how to get a wife more open to the possibilities of doing more than missionary position during sex.

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Higher Desire Wife #563

Higher Desire Wife #563

Today I’m joined by J Parker, of Hot Holy and Humorous, and we discuss the plight of the higher desire wife.

It’s more common than we think, it’s impacting younger people’s marriage more than ever and there are several reasons why we think this is the case.

What are these reasons? Join us today to hear more.

You can find J’s work on her site – https://hotholyhumorous.com/

Enjoy the show!

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Being Sexually Mindful #562

Being Sexually Mindful #562

Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me as we discuss her research and work on being more sexually mindful. 

You can find more about Dr Chelom here – https://www.chelomleavitt.com/

On the Xtended version …

Dr Chelom and I discuss the differences between differentiation theory and attachment theory. 

Enjoy the show!

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Orgasm Denial #561

Orgasm Denial #561

A follow up to a couple of segments from Episode #559. Was I too harsh in my wording?

A couple is exploring the idea of orgasm denial – where there will be no orgasms for him unless he accomplishes certain tasks or fulfills something set for him by his wife.

On the Xtended version …

How exactly do you work to better yourself? It’s a phrase we often use – but what are some tangible ways this is accomplished?

Enjoy the show!

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Domestic and Spiritual Abuse #560

Domestic and Spiritual Abuse #560

Today we dive into a topic that is sadly far too reaching in our world –  domestic and spiritual abuse. Colleen Ramser joins me in our discussion about how these types of traumas impact both men and women.

We also get into how each of us who have been impacted by this type of trauma can heal going forward. 

Learn more about Colleen here – http://www.colleenramserlpc.com/

And check out her course here – https://www.colleenramser.com/

Enjoy the show! 9g29qpwv

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Tried It, Don’t Like It #559

Tried It, Don’t Like It #559

A follow to a message from an Instagram Q&A I was a part of over Valentine’s Weekend.

A wife tried out something new in sex, didn’t like it, yet her husband keeps pushing for it.

A husband wants to introduce a prostate massager during mutual masturbation, his wife isn’t ok with it.

On the Xtended version …

How do you frame healthy conversations around affection, passion and sexual release in marriage? Particularly as it pertains to masturbation?

PLUS – XTD feed members get to hear a new version and music in the intro and outro of the show. We’d love your feedback as we kick around ways to keep the show fresh and evolving.

Enjoy the show!

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Roommates Not Lovers #558

Roommates Not Lovers #558

Today, everyone gets the full show …

Dr Robert Glover joins me again as we dive into the roommate syndrome often found in marriage.

What are the factors at play that cause this to happen? But more importantly, what can we do about it?

Find more of Dr Glover here – https://www.drglover.com/

Enjoy the show!

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One Flesh #557

One Flesh #557

A followup to Episode #555 – what about the Scriptural concept of marriage is described as being one flesh?

A wife emails as lower desire, yet her husband has given up initiating and expects her to take it over. He’s even said to her “when you’re interested in it, you know where to find me.” 

On the Xtended version …

We switch gears and discuss the topic of trauma again, only through a slightly different framework.

We also give some ideas on what to do when triggers from the past occur in the present.

Enjoy the show!

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Finding Your Power #556

Finding Your Power #556

Dr Juli Slattery joins me as we talk through her decision to re-write her very first book, Finding the Hero In Your Husband. 

What’s new, and what has changed in society and the Christian culture since it was originally written?

Find more of Dr Juli here – https://www.authenticintimacy.com/

On the Xtended version …

We all face disappointment in life and marriage- but what if disappointment is actually a path to more intimacy? 

Enjoy the show!

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