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Great Sex Rescue #549
Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me as we talk about her newest book, The Great Sex Rescue.
Learn more about Sheila on her site https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/
On the Xtended version …
A conversation I had with Sheila about the concerns I had regarding her book and the tone of her writing and responses since publication.
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Arousal vs Attraction #548
An email from a wife who wants to know if asking questions to her husband about his past struggle with porn will increase the temptation.
A voicemail from a wife wanting help understanding arousal and attraction.
On the Xtended version …
Pam and I work through a gridlock script from a member of the SMR Nation.
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Best Of SMR: Too Tired For Sex #547
A voicemail from a Rape Crisis Counselor concerned about one of our past messages of leading towards what you want in sex.
How do you spice up sex when trying to conceive? Dr. Laurie Mintz joins me to cover this email.
On the Xtended version …
A deeper conversation with Dr Mintz about her work helping women who are too tired for sex.
Find more of her work here – http://drlauriemintz.com/
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If I Do This Will You Do That #546
After our segment on BDSM in Episode #541 we received a couple of emails about how we totally missed the mark are came across as judgmental. Today we address this more.
A husband wants to rim his wife yet she’s not comfortable with the act. She wants to go skydiving which he’s not comfortable with. What about an exchange?
On the Xtended version …
A role play of how to address gridlock issues, based from a segment in last week’s Xtended content.
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Dealing With Breast Cancer #545
I’m joined by Dr Laurie Watson and we talk about how breast cancer impacts a couple’s married life, sex life and desire – plus the journey for both spouses facing this battle.
Learn more about Dr Laurie here – https://www.foreplayrst.com/
On the Xtended version of today’s show …
Laurie and I talk about the yin and the yang of the energy in a couples sex life.
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Resentment #544
Today I’m joined by a colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great – except in one area. What’s happening here?
Plus, how do you address resentment in marriage and life?
Learn more about Dr Jennifer here – https://www.finlayson-fife.com/
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Not Feeling Chosen #543
Two emails from wives who do not feel chosen in their marriages. One wife has trouble trusting because of this and past betrayals from her husband. The other wife is married to a man who says he wouldn’t get married if he were to do it all over again.
On the Xtended version …
With the huge volume of information and noise in our world, we talk about the benefits of an attention diet. And how to go on one.
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You Are Not Broken #542
I’m joined by Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their bodies and their abilities in sex and life.
To learn more about Dr Kelly visit her site – https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/
On the Extended Version …
Dr Kelly and I discuss where orgasms reside in the brain!
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Secrets Of Great Sex #541
This week we are celebrating SMR’s 10 year anniversary!!!
On the Regular version of today’s show …
Some thank you’s are in order as we have been on the air for 10 years now. Thank you to the SMRNation for showing up each week and speaking up about the topics and issues you want to learn more about.
An email from a listener curious about BDSM as a Christian couple.
On the Xtended version …
What are the secrets of couples that have great sex? We will share 8.
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Sex As An Idol #540
Can sex be an idol. How would you know?
A dating couple want to know more about what options are there for birth control as they prepare for the marriage. The pill had too many side effects for the wife and she’s concerned about condoms, even though her soon to be husband says he’s fine with them.
A newlywed couple is averaging sex 2 times a month, not at all what she thought would be the case. Is there something wrong?
On the Xtended version …
Could the higher desire/lower desire labels also be limiting to the people who find comfort in knowing they are one or the other in their marriage?
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Can’t Turn My Mind Off #539
I’m joined by Dr Emily Jamea as we discuss the distracted mind, or put another way – how to address the times when you can’t turn off you mind.
Learn more about Dr Jamea on her site – https://emilyjamea.com/
On the Xtended version …
Dr Emily and I discuss the dynamic in marriage where the wife is the higher desire spouse.
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All Things Are Permissible #538
A wife gets turned off when her husband wants to do some novel things in their sex life. How can she address him and the situations better?
A husband emails about a wife who has lost all desire and libido due to a medication she is on. How can her get her more engaged in their sex life so it doesn’t feel one-sided?
On the Xtended version …
There is a Scripture that says, All things are permissible, but not all things are beneficial. How does this apply to our marriage and sex life?
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