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Lust #514

Lust #514

An email from a husband curious about all the penile enlargement and performance products promoted today.

A wife who has experienced pain in the beginning of their sex life but has now found a position that is pain free – now she’s anxious about trying out new positions.

On the Xtended version …

We unpack the concept of lust as mentioned in Matthew 5:27-30.

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Edging #513

Edging #513

Bouncing your eyes is one way to avoid the temptations around us, but what about steering your energy as well?

An email from a husband who is wondering if ruining his orgasm would help his quick ejaculation issue. 

On the Xtended version …

A wonderful tool for helping you determine your responsibilities in the issues you face in life.

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Snoring #512

Snoring #512

A peek behind the curtain into how Pam and I address the issue of snoring, and the messages built into our moves.

An email from a husband who is the higher desire for sex but the lower desire for romance. Is that odd?

On the Xtended version …

A recording of a talk Corey gave at church about how do I see myself and how does God see me?

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Moments of Meeting #511

Moments of Meeting #511

How does a husband help his wife be more confident, while also helping his teenage daughter be less confident? 

A husband is confident at work, yet struggles to being that same presence to home.

A higher desire wife struggles initiating due to fear of rejection and they both have struggled with masturbation throughout their lives. 

On the Xtended version …

Moments of meeting. Perhaps this is a better way to frame what many of us are really looking for in marriage and life. 

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We Aren’t Good Kissers #510

We Aren’t Good Kissers #510

A voicemail from a wife who wants to connect better with her husband through kissing, but they have trouble doing so.

An email about the connection between higher desire vs lower desire and spontaneous drive vs responsive drive.

Is solo sex harmful to your health? What about sex outside of marriage?

A husband can’t shake his desire to explore a more free lifestyle now that marriage and kids and responsibilities have taken over his life. 

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My Own Taste #509

My Own Taste #509

An email from a higher desire husband looking to not take the rejections so personal from his lower desire wife. 

A husband wants to go down on his wife after they’ve had intercourse, yet isn’t so sure. 

A wife of a video game husband wants to know how to be more solid in confronting the amount of time he plays online and disconnects from the family life. 

On the Xtended version …

Creating a more solid sense of self and the art of self-validation.

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Three Types Of Sex #508

Three Types Of Sex #508

I’m joined by Irene Fehr and we have a conversation about the three types of sex she believe all couples experience in marriage.

To learn more about Irene visit her site – https://www.irenefehr.com/

On the Xtended version …

Irene and I continue the conversation and move into the specifics of how you can create better connection in sex.

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Next Wisest Step #507

Next Wisest Step #507

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Pam and I have a coffee shop conversation about when you’re faced with choices where there really isn’t right or wrong yet, what’s the best wise step?

An email from a listener asking about ideas to help address issues when there are size differences between spouses.

On the Xtended version …

A great quote from Charles Cooley – “I am not who you think I am, I am not who I think I am, I am who I think you think I am.”

Let’s unpack.

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Fantasies About A Wife’s Past #506

Fantasies About A Wife’s Past #506

A listener joins me on the air to work through why he fantasizes  so much about his wife’s past sexual encounters.

On the Xtended version …

We continue the conversation about fantasies but turn it towards the topics of self-control and desire.

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Allergic to Sex #505

Allergic to Sex #505

An email from a couple who wonder if allergens can be passed through semen and what are steps to take to prevent this from affecting his wife.

Another discussion of the higher desire and lower desire dilemma in married sex.

On the Xtended version …

An email from a husband who is really turned on by his wife’s past sexual encounters. Is this wrong or sinful?

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Rather Leave than Cheat #504

Rather Leave than Cheat #504

A husband feels so stuck in a marriage with really lousy sex that’s he’s thinking of leaving because he’s afraid he’ll cheat.

Another husband emails asking for our thoughts on times when there is expected sex and the amount of pressure his wife feels during those times. 

On the Xtended version …

Intimacy in marriage part 4. Why listening is so hard when building more intimacy. 

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Lazy Lover #503

Lazy Lover #503

A voicemail from a husband with three questions about his marriage.

An email from a newer into marriage couple asking for resources to help spice things up.

An email from a wife whose husband has turned into a lazy lover since introducing some sex toys into their encounters together.

On the Xtended version …

How to address the conflict and struggle that comes with being more intimate with your spouse.

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