The Elusive Happiness Problem

In October of 2006 I finished writing and defending my Dissertation, which was the final step in completing my Ph.D. in Family Therapy. This was a huge milestone. One that began six years earlier when I decided to begin graduate school. Completing school was something...

Stop Shoulding On Yourself

How often do you should on yourself? You will know what I’m talking about if you ever get the feeling that you’re living a life you never really wanted. You wind up simply existing, doing what you think other people think you should do. If you’re...

Above The Line Or Below It

This is a popular coaching tool to use when looking at your mindset. It also works with relationships. Above the line: Ownership, Accept and Responsibility. Taking ownership, accepting and taking responsibility for your attitude and actions. Below the line: Blame,...

Expectations

Whatever you focus on, grows. So how much time and energy do you spend focused on your expectations? A good working definition of expectations is planned disappointments. And expectations are directly correlated with happiness, or more aptly, unhappiness. When what we...