Could Bad Sex Be Good?

Could Bad Sex Be Good?

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story Steve is the high sex desire spouse and Michelle is the low sex desire spouse. Early in their marriage, Steve’s always raring to go. Anytime, anyplace, the more the...

Growing Up In Marriage

This past weekend I had the chance to speak at Freedom Church Los Alamos. It’s so great to be among real people – who love God – and are bringing God’s love to others! *Interested in having me come speak to your group or church? Let’s...

No Excuse

One thing I repeatedly encounter as a marriage and family therapist is couples in emotional crisis. It’s common for my clients to come into sessions pretty worked up. Or to almost lose it during session due to the intensity we can reach at times. Oftentimes,...

How Do I Know I'm Growing Up?

One of the things I’m often asked by my clients (and readers) is “How do I know when I’m growing up?” This may seem like a simple question, but if you view relationships (especially marriage) as a people-growing machine, then it can sometimes...

A Guardian Of Your Spouse's Solitude

One of my clients sent me this quote. It’s a great way to frame what growing up in marriage can look like. The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner...